The Dark Side … of the Human Being: Philosophical & Spiritual Essays

I met Dana maybe 15 years ago.We’ve worked together on a project.But … the project delayed so, so much … that we ended up becoming friends.Easy… easy … we’ve started to talk about lots of things … especially our lives…. even details … which had to do with intimacy.We lost contact … by already few years … but something still reminds me of her.She was the first woman …. which telling me her life … made me understand the woman.You see … firstly she was married with a guy in Norway…. a wealthy guy.Unfortunately … he was treating her very bad in there.She was cheated.Manipulated.Offended.And … actually husband saw her more as a slave than a wife.One night she left from that beautiful mansion which meant for her … only a hell … with a plastic bag with few things in it.Abandoned the husband…. but also her child.Most certainly … the experience itself was horrible … that Dana could abandon her daughter in there.And … to be honest… hearing this story … even if we were friends at that time … I’ve started to judge her.I was thinking … “what type of person is Dana … if she could abandon her child?!Why she left alone?!Why she didn’t took her child also?!”I had lots of questions into my mind … but maybe the fears made her act like that.And … the Universe acted nice with her …. cause later on she found a new man.Again …. a wealthy guy.They had a good business in Paris…. a beautiful 600 sqm house with swimming pool and garage.2 Porsches.Short story … all a couple could dream.Somehow … the story was repeated.She was living the same experience again …. but this time she really had the life she thought she will have first time when she married.But … again … Dana surprised me with her perceptions.After being cheated many, many times … in the first marriage …. Dana asked to her second husband to swear in front of God … that he will never cheat on her…. somehow believing him … that all will be different than her first marriage.But one day … Dana told me something that really changed…. my whole perceptions about the woman.It was a long talk.We’ve spoke on the phone that day maybe 2-3 hours.Somehow … laughing …. she said … “I’ve spoken recently with my husband … and i’ve just told him… that if he will ever cheat on me … i just want him to … use a condom.”I said … “What?!””Yes. It might happen.In France … things like that can happen.I simply …. changed my mind.I know it can happen … and my only request was to use a condom … so that i don’t get infected with … a disease.”I could not believe it.But … at that time … i was too busy to analyse all that … in micro details.It was funny … how she changed her perceptions.Extremely funny.Most probably … she became realistic.Extremely realistic.And … wise.Or maybe … she allowed her husband … what she started to adore doing.Flirting.Tasting energies.Connecting to new souls…. without believing that this is something bad.But … being realistic enough … she knew that playing this game … it might all end up … as cheating.So … she was into that point … when she knew that … we all have a dark side.Including her husband.Including herself … but even if the marriage was nice … that didn’t necessarily meant that betrayal could not happen.I was just listening her … for hours.And … indeed I’ve learnt a lot from her … but still … even today … when i analyse all a lot … i can’t agree with such obviously real case scenarios.Cause … i am not a open minded person.I am … too utopian.In my beliefs.